The Importance of Choosing the Right PhD Advisor: Facing Challenges and Making the Switch

Choosing the right PhD advisor is crucial for a successful academic career. However, sometimes the advisor you begin with might not meet your expectations or needs. In such cases, considering a change can be imperative. My own experience serves as a cautionary tale of what can go wrong under poor advising conditions, and the challenges one might face when trying to make a switch.

Initial Assignments and Challenges

I am relieved to not have made the recommended change in advisors. Initially, she was assigned to me because she was the only one left on the list. The administration had bumped her up to number one when no one else had chosen her. The context was not ideal: the professor had previously been fired for having a sexual relationship with a student. Despite this baggage, I held out hope that my new advisor could be a positive influence.

Discovering Incompatibilities and Biases

Believing in my ordeal, the new professor was hired to replace the fired one. Assuming I was part of a similar relationship or orientation due to our shared LGBT identity, she appeared to have preconceived notions that were incorrect. I disclosed my marital status and happiness, but it was too little too late. This assumption alone created an uncomfortable and intimidating atmosphere for me.

Personal Crisis and Further Challenges

Adding to the strain was the diagnosis of schizophrenia in one of my daughters. My advisor, instead of showing support, spread a rumor that I was also possibly psychotic. This rumor and the resulting ostracization by my academic program added significant stress to my already difficult situation. My academic progress was intentionally delayed, and I had to pay for extra semesters to keep up.

Final Decisions and Conclusion

When I finally attempted to change advisors, the process was fraught with challenges. The alternative professor whom I contacted was initially cautious and then declined, leaving me with no choice but to stay with the original advisor. Despite her numerous shortcomings, I managed to complete my dissertation and secure my future success. While I still bear the negative memories, the lesson from this experience is invaluable.

When Should You Consider Changing Advisors?

If your situation is as dire as mine, you may need to consider quitting altogether. However, if you are still hopeful, finding a decent or a more driven young professor willing to help you finish is crucial. Advisors must be approached with caution, as they may resist a change or even seek to sabotage you. Avoiding an advisor who is not decent can save you a lot of unnecessary pain and struggle.

Conclusion

Deciding to change your PhD advisor should not be taken lightly. It is a significant personal and academic decision. If the need arises, it is imperative to act decisively. Communicate openly and transparently with your current advisor and future advisor. Holding back can lead to even greater regret. The choice to switch advisors may air your issues but is a necessary step for your academic success and mental well-being.