Reflections on Hosting Foreign Exchange Students: A Deep Dive

The decision to host foreign exchange students can be both exciting and daunting. Many families see this experience as an opportunity to learn from different cultures, broaden their horizons, and make lifelong friendships. However, not all hosting experiences are positive. This article shares insights and reflections from families who have hosted exchange students, focusing on both successful and challenging experiences.

Positive Experiences with Foreign Exchange Students

For many families, hosting foreign exchange students can be a rewarding and enriching experience. In some cases, these students become like extended family members and lifelong friends. For instance, the Andersons, who had hosted two exchange students from Switzerland and Italy, shared, 'Our two exchange girls were not only sweet, polite, and enthusiastic, but they also deepened our appreciation for the cultures they represented. We have maintained lasting friendships with their families, and even though time has passed, we still keep in touch.'

Negative Experiences and Challenges

Despite the positive experiences, there are instances where the hosting process can be frustrating and even detrimental. Family Boughan, for example, had a particularly negative experience. They initially hosted two exchange students who did not integrate well into the family despite the host family’s efforts to engage them. These students also did not bond with the family or their siblings. The experience was so disappointing that they never repeated the process.

Another instance of a challenging experience was when the Andersons took in a young girl from an 'emergency placement.' The girl had been placed with a friend's family but left due to a fight. The Andersons quickly noticed that the girl had Asperger's Syndrome, a condition they already had a child with. The parents seemed unconcerned about the girl's needs, hoping for a vacation from her. This situation was both challenging and disheartening.

Lessons Learned and Future Hosts' Advice

The negative experiences faced by some families can serve as valuable lessons for future hosts. The Andersons initially regretted their participation, but the positive experiences with their first two students made them reconsider. They concluded, 'If we had our first experience with an exchange student, we never would have hosted again. However, because of the positive aspects of our first two experiences, we may host again in the future. But we are much more cautious about emergency placements.'

For those considering hosting foreign exchange students, it is crucial to:

Understand the cultural and individual needs of the student. Engage in thorough background checks and interviews with the student and the agency. Be prepared for potential challenges and difficulties. Communicate openly and proactively with the agency and the family. Request complete and accurate documentation of the student's background and needs.

Conclusion

Hosting foreign exchange students offers numerous benefits, including cultural exchange and personal growth. However, it is essential to approach the process with open eyes and a willingness to face potential challenges. For families who are considering hosting, it is crucial to learn from others' experiences and make informed decisions. By doing so, they can ensure a more positive and enriching experience for both the host family and the international student.