Why Are Many Servicemen Partnered with Heavier Women?

Questions about why many servicemen marry women who are perceived as 'heavy' often lead to discussions of societal perceptions, demographics, and lifestyle factors. This article explores the reasons behind this phenomenon, with insights from a 20-year Navy veteran who has observed these trends firsthand.

Societal Perception and Base Culture

The narrative often painted around military servicemen marrying "thin girls" who subsequently become "fat" may be an oversimplification. During my time, it was common to see military couples where the woman was not as thin as they had initially been. This perception is shaped by societal and base culture, where military men may marry younger or 'cute' women who are often single mothers seeking stability and a life beyond their previous relationship. The term 'dependent wives' can be a disparaging term, but it also reflects a reality of military lifestyle and personal choice.

Demographic and Geographic Factors

Geographically, many military bases are located in rural areas or smaller towns, which may contribute to the phenomenon. People in rural areas and small towns often have a higher obesity rate compared to those in major cities. Why? Simple: urban dwellers often have to walk more frequently, while those in rural areas can drive for most of their daily needs. This lack of daily physical activity can lead to higher obesity rates. As a Navy veteran, I can attest to this pattern over my 20-year career, where these trends were evident at various bases across the country. Obesity statistics from the CDC also support this observation, showing higher obesity rates in rural areas compared to urban centers.

Interracial Marriages and Military Contexts

In addition to the marriage status of women, the military context also affects interracial marriages. The military is often seen as more inclusive and less concerned with traditional social divisions—racial, ethnic, or physical appearance. Despite the conservative stereotype that lingers in some circles, military bases create a microcosm where people from diverse backgrounds come together. This setting can highlight culturally aberrant or 'different' social situations, making interracial marriages more visible. However, these marriages are not unique to the military; they are more prominent due to the spotlight the military culture places on them.

Conclusion: Visible Patterns vs. Individual Choices

The observation that many military men marry women who become heavier is a pattern that is visible but not universal. While many factors contribute to this trend, including geographic location, lifestyle, and demographic shifts, it is essential to recognize that individual choices and circumstances play a significant role. The spotlight on these marriages within military culture does not imply that all military couples fit into a specific mold, but rather that these marriages are more visible and discussed due to their prevalence and the unique dynamics of military life.