Empathy and Obligation: Choosing to Help the Needy

Being confronted with the living conditions of street children, some may feel indifferent, while others may be moved to help. However, one cannot force oneself to be empathetic or helpful. The decision to assist the less fortunate is a personal choice that reveals one's character and values.

Is Empathy or Help a Legal Requirement?

It is often asked whether we are obliged to help the poor or be decent human beings. The answer is no. There is no legal or moral obligation to feel empathy or help others in need. While one can choose to indulge in selfishness or disregard societal norms, there are those who believe in the power of empathy and kindness.

Personal Experiences in Different Countries

One's actions and reactions can vary widely based on cultural and personal context. For example, in the United States, the response to a street child may depend on the child's age and whether the child appears to be using substances. In Mexico, the situation can be more complex. I once saw a young boy with self-inflicted minor injuries and very aggressive behavior. Instead of giving him money, I chose to laugh and tell him to 'suck it up,' as my mother would have.

Decisions Based on Empathy

For some, however, the desire to help is rooted in empathy. Such individuals often feel compelled to assist others who are in need, not because of legal obligations but because of a deep-seated desire to create a compassionate community.

A Personal Encounter

Nearly 25 years ago, while living in Mexico, I encountered a young boy without shoes, barefoot and ragged. Sympathizing with his plight, I took him to a local shoe store where he received a new pair of shoes and socks. To show my willingness to support him further, we went to a nearby restaurant for a meal. We met several more times at the same restaurant, and it became clear that the boy was taking good care of his new shoes. Later, a false accusation was made against me, suggesting I had improper intentions. My only hope is that this boy has a happy and successful life.

The Choice to Help

Ultimately, the decision to help or not to help is a choice that each individual must make based on their own values and beliefs. Whether we choose to indulge in selfishness or work towards creating a more compassionate and empathetic community, the choice is ours and reveals our true character. Empathy, while not a legal or moral obligation, can be a powerful force for good in society.

Keywords: empathy, obligation, helping the poor