Emotions on the First Day of School: Two Parents’ Perspectives

Introduction

Starting the first day of school can evoke a wide range of emotions for both parents and children. This blog post explores two distinct perspectives on this significant milestone: a parent whose child started school early due to an autism diagnosis, and another parent who faced the challenge of re-entering the workforce with children of toddler age.

Social and Emotional Developments in Young Children Diagnosed with Autism

For many parents of young children diagnosed with autism, the first day of school can be a blend of relief and apprehension. Sophie, a parent whose child was diagnosed with autism at a young age, reflects on her experience:

"My son started school a mere 2 days after his 3rd birthday. I was not even remotely ready for him to go. Most parents of 3-year-olds might say, 'Wow. That’s early! Why did you start him so soon'? However, I didn't have a choice.

The diagnosis led to early intervention programs which prepared him for preschool. The program he was enrolled in worked closely with the school district to provide comprehensive support. He received a mix of therapies and social interactions with peers.

While the program was beneficial, it didn't shield Sophie from her emotions during the child's first day of school:

"I cried the first day he left. I still cry once in a while. He's my baby and I worry about him. I worry that he will be bullied, run away, or get hurt. Even though he is often just a 5-minute drive away, these fears persist.

Returning to Work and the Emotional Hurdle of Saying Goodbye

Contrary to Sophie's experience, another parent faced a different set of challenges. She started back to work when her children were about 15 weeks old and they are now 18 and 22. Thanks to the support of her grandmother, the children adapted gradually. Finally, the day came when they started school, which the parent describes as a joyous moment:

"No. I was absolutely delighted! Starting the first day of school with my children was a significant milestone. We went to school together, and it was fabulous.

However, the child's departure from the school brought a bittersweet feeling. The parent shared her emotions:

"I cried on their last day at my school, particularly my daughter's last day. My children would no longer be coming to school with me.

Conclusion

The first day of school can trigger a myriad of emotions in both parents and children, whether it's due to an early start for special needs, or the joy and sadness of a parent returning to work. By sharing these personal insights, we can better understand the challenges and joys that come with this important transition in a child's life.

Keywords

First day of school, autism, early intervention, school anxiety, separation anxiety