Does MBTI Compatibility Matter in Relationship and Friendship?

Introduction to Personality Typing

The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is one of the most widely used personality assessment tools in the world. Developed by Isabel Briggs Myers, this system categorizes individuals into 16 distinct personality types. While the MBTI system offers a wealth of insights into personal behavior and communication styles, it has also become a significant aspect of dating and interpersonal relationships.

Using Personality Types in Dating

MBTI-fueled compatibility charts and recommended "golden couples" are common online, but there is more to these personality types than meets the eye. Compatibility charts can be limiting, suggesting that certain personality types are better suited for each other based on anecdotal evidence and cognitive function theory. However, the true value lies in personal compatibility, as evidenced by the author's relationship with an ISTJ, a personality type generally deemed incompatible with INTJ.

A Case Study: ISTJ and INTJ Compatibility

Introducing Isabela, an ISTJ (Introverted, Sensing, Thinking, Judging) who is risk-averse and values certainty. Met in a Beirut bar in 2017, Isabela's initial reaction to a personality analysis was one of intrigue and agreement. The author, an INTJ, was fascinated by the idea of understanding her perspective. Despite the mismatch suggested by compatibility charts, their relationship thrives due to their complementary traits.

For example, Isabela, as an ISTJ, tends to avoid uncertainty and prefer routine, whereas the author, as an INTJ, thrives in uncertainty and excels in taking calculated risks. Instead of these differences being a source of conflict, they enhance their relationship. Isabela provides a stabilizing influence, while the author motivates her to take necessary risks.

The Significance of Compatibility in Relationships

The MBTI system has also helped the author and Isabela understand the dynamics of their relationship. For instance, both are predominantly Introverted with Feeling as their third cognitive function. This shared trait has led them to be more mindful in expressing their emotions to each other. Their understanding of how to support each other has greatly enriched their relationship.

Embracing Compatibility for a Deeper Connection

Reflecting on personal experiences, the author has developed a new dating app called Ur My Type. This app leverages the 16 personality types to empower users to find meaningful matches based on their own personal taste and preferences. Instead of relying on generic compatibility charts, Ur My Type encourages users to follow a more personalized approach.

Ur My Type aims to democratize the benefits of personality typing in dating. For many, the MBTI system served as an icebreaker and provided insights into potential romantic partners, but it has also become a source of shared knowledge and mutual understanding. By using personality typing to navigate relationships, individuals can foster deeper connections and avoid superficial judgments.