Cuddling or Non-Sexual Cuddling: A Look at Modern Gender Dynamics

Not everything is about some damn social movement. Relax and start taking things at face value.

Psychology: More Than Just Feelings

Psychology has become more of a pseudoscience nowadays, catering more to enabling dysfunctional behaviors because “it feels good” rather than treating them for what they are. This type of thinking cracks me up. Here’s my take on the American Psychological Association (APA) and toxic masculinity.

Steve DeBerry’s Response to the APA

Steve DeBerry’s answer to the APA posits that socialization of men and boys has led to the current state of affairs. Taking another aspect, let’s look at what a non-sexual cuddling group is. Why is it necessary to preface cuddling with non-sexual? By doing so, we enter the world of convoluted language so nicely parodied by George Carlin.

Is Cuddling Really Non-Sexual?

I cuddle with family, friends, and even animals. Never think about it as sexual. Back in the day, I cuddled with lots of women. This usually brought up sexual feelings and thoughts, but having sexual thoughts and feelings is not the same as having sex. As most of us learn at an early age, cuddling does not necessarily lead to sex. I’ve been held and have hugged many guys in my arms. For tragic and joyful reasons, this could be considered cuddling. People, all people, find a way to share emotions with one another. To cuddle is to offer and receive comfort and solace.

Global Emotional Needs

I’ve held Marines who needed it after returning from war. Seems to me that cuddling is a universal need that is being over analyzed, deconstructed, and politicized so much that it makes people afraid… afraid to cuddle… unless the right forms are signed, the type and sub-type defined, the necessary boxes checked, and the permission slips properly recorded, notarized, and filed. Reminds me of an old Warren Zevon song:

"If you want it, just sign here, leave out D for disabled, check the F or the M box, confirm you’re a hundred percent details must be perfect every fax and be faxed."

The Myth of Men Not Understanding Women

There’s always been that saying “men just don’t understand women.” I believe this proves the vice versa as well. If that gal had at any time had an honest conversation with a man, she would have realized what stupid gibberish she’s talking. Men don’t do that… and they don’t do that because they’re manly but because it feels against our nature. We have testosterone, we’re less touchy-feely, and we sure as hell aren’t touchy-feely with other men. I believe this is part of an initiative by some clueless chicks to “pussify” the male population. I do believe that toxic masculinity exists but I am also horrified by this liberal BS and retarded garbage that turns men into boys. I have feelings, I talk openly about them, and I’m honest about most of what I feel, both negative and positive. I just see all of that as an abomination.

Some women are trying to force apples to be peaches. It don't work that way. I can guarantee you… an hour of tennis or football with some mates are far more effective than all the “non-sexual cuddling” some poor misguided feminist can come up with. If you don’t understand men, don’t give advice.

Keywords: cuddling, toxic masculinity, non-sexual