Common Bad Table Manners and Cultural Differences

Introduction to Bad Table Manners

Table manners are a set of etiquette rules that govern the use of utensils, the consumption of food, and the behavior during meals. However, not everyone adheres to these rules. Certain behaviors are considered off-putting or rudimentary and can detract from a pleasant dining experience. This article will explore some of the common bad table manners observed around the world, as well as cultural differences in table etiquette.

Observations of Bad Table Manners

As someone brought up in France and England, where table manners are highly valued, it can be jarring to observe the lack of etiquette in some cultures or even among some people who claim to be aware of proper table manners. Here are some of the bad table manners commonly observed:

Sneezing, blowing one's nose, or coughing in the direction of others during a meal Picking one's nose and not washing hands properly Locking fingers and not washing hands after a meal Allowing children to touch and handle food with unwashed hands Forcing someone to eat food they do not want to eat Waving utensils around to emphasize a point during a discussion

One of the most fear-inducing behaviors I've observed is the waving of utensils during conversation, particularly seen in some of my otherwise "civilized" friends. In some cultures, especially in Australia, this behavior can be particularly challenging. The use of utensils for emphasis can be seen as disruptive and unrefined, and in the worst case, could result in accidental injury.

Cultural Sensitivity and Adaptation

It's important to be mindful of cultural sensitivity when critiquing bad table manners. Dining customs vary widely from one culture to another, and what may be seen as bad manners in one culture might be perfectly acceptable in another. For example, some cultures encourage more vocal and animated conversation, while other societies emphasize a more subtle and restrained approach.

For instance, in France and England, where table manners are highly emphasized, behaviors like picking one's nose or failure to wash hands would be considered highly inappropriate. In Australia, where the emphasis on table manners may be less rigid, these behaviors might be less noticeable. However, it's important to recognize the potential for offense and to choose one's behavior accordingly.

Additional Bad Table Manners to Watch Out For

Other common bad table manners include:

Talking with food in the mouth Using a tissue to wipe your face as if you've spat a bit of food on it Leaving a little bit of food on the plate after a meal (indicating that the food wasn't to the diner's satisfaction) Waving a hand to indicate that someone left Chewing with your mouth open Slurping drinks loudly Forcing someone to eat food they don’t want to eat

These behaviors not only detract from the dining experience but can also make people around you uncomfortable or even disgusted. It's important to strive for good table manners to ensure a pleasant and respectful meal for everyone involved.

Children's Table Etiquette

Bad table manners should be addressed, especially with children, as they grow up. Teaching them proper table manners can help them in various social situations as they mature. Here are a few things to watch out for in children's table etiquette:

Eating off their own small plates or having their own designated eating areas in the dining room Not eating continuously with their mouths open Eating food without making messy sounds or splashing drinks Wiping their mouths with a napkin, rather than a tissue, and not holding it in their hands Using their proper utensils and not using the tableware to place food on their laps or clothing

It's also important to set a good example for children by showing respect during mealtime and encouraging them to do the same. This can include being patient and not forcing them to eat something they dislike.

Conclusion

Bad table manners can be frustrating and can take away from the enjoyment of a social gathering. Whether in France, England, Australia, or any other part of the world, good table manners are essential for a pleasant dining experience. By being mindful of cultural differences and actively working to improve our own table manners, we can ensure that everyone at the table is comfortable and well-fed.