Heck, even alpha males can lose their confidence every now and then. No matter the circumstances, we guarantee the man in question doesn’t enjoy such feelings of insecurity. But no one can be 100% confident 100% of the time, which is why we’ve rounded up a list of five things that make a man feel insecure.
1. His partner’s success
Everyone would hope for a partner who’s their biggest cheerleader, but that’s not always the case. Sure, men often believe their role is to provide for the family, but when that balance is tipped, watch out. Men subconsciously feel better about themselves when their female partners fail. The study’s lead author, Kate Ratliff, PhD, of the University of Florida, said, “But this research found evidence that men automatically interpret a partner’s success as their own failure, even when they’re not in direct competition.” Whoa… insecure much?
2. Coming up short in the bedroom
It’s a popular assumption a man’s ego has everything to do with size, but there’s far more to it. While everyone would like to consider himself a total Adonis in bed, it’s likely that sexual performance will fall short from time to time.
I once read that a desirable length of time in the sack lasts from seven to 13 minutes, and too short a time lasts from one to two minutes. But sometimes, it’s not always possible to remain at full attention for as long as one would hope, and that’s okay. Such a situation, though, can sometimes knock a man’s confidence points down a couple notches on the bedpost.
3. Not being able to open a jar
Seriously, this makes no sense too me. As a new blogger, I was able to interview some random guys with my list that women had suggested. But here it goes;
Sure, this insecurity may seem a bit macho-man, but not being able to open a jar (with ease) goes back to the primal days of “man make fire.” It’s no secret that men like to be, well, manly, and being able to force open a jar of palm oil or peanut butter is a point of pride. And what makes the stakes even higher? Well, when his significant other asks him to open it, that’s what. No matter how much brute force it takes, that jar top will come off…lol. I don’t get why this is even in my top 5 lists.
4. Hearing about a partner’s ex
I am not even trying to have that conversation, but since I am bringing these up in my first full blogs, here it goes…
A person’s sexual past isn’t exactly an A+ talking point. When a man’s significant other repeatedly brings up his or her previous relationships, it’s no surprise it will likely cause tension. And while talking about exes is a sign of being insecure, it can also be a topic that makes a man insecure, as well. Let’s face it, no man is really dying to hear about all the gritty little details of your past. As far as (I am) he’s concerned, he’s the main squeeze in your life. Hey, if you aren’t happy with me or your new relationship, by all means walk! Afterall, there are plenty of man and woman out there, abi?
5. Being uncultured
Sometimes, if a man finds himself outside his conversational comfort zone, he may feel the need to overcompensate. A man may feel as though he has nothing to contribute to his partner’s views on Middle Eastern politics or feminist theory, so he’ll blurt out whatever comes to mind, regardless of how relevant it may be. But there’s no shame in admitting you’re not in the know about something. Most people in your life will actually find it much sexier if you’re able to confidently ask questions and be open to learning. So go ahead and ask away.